Enjoy worry-free sex

Sylwester Szefer in conversation with Father Ksawery Knotz.

Popular Polish Capuchin friar Ksawery Knotz focuses primarily on pastoral care for married couples and is one of a select few Catholic priests who speak openly about sexuality.

Does married life have to turn into a boring routine over time? Where should we look for inspiration for a successful sex life? Is it possible to surprise each other even after years of marriage?

Many Catholics believe they have to behave in bed as they would in church – solemnly. They think they must renounce laughter and frivolity. Father Ksawery Knotz, who has spent several years spreading teachings on the beauty of sexual intercourse, says something completely different: he encourages married couples to talk about their desires and fulfil each other's expectations. In the words of Saint Augustine: "Love and do what you will!"

Ksawery Knotz reminds us that foreplay, fantasies and exciting positions are not reserved solely for those who enjoy casual, loveless sex. However, he does not lose sight of the bigger picture of a human being – physical intimacy is not an end in itself, but a complement to the spiritual sphere. In contrast to the modern exaggeration that equates the quality of experience with the number of sexual partners, Father Knotz argues that sex with just one person is like wine – the older, the better! But only those who persevere will find out.

The original Polish edition of the book was granted a Nihil obstat.